I wasn’t blaming you in anyway. I get it. Like I said, I forgot my SHOES the day of my wedding. I was just saying that, as a person who lets anger fester myself without knowing how to bridge the gaps that are created because of it, I see how she could be hurt and also not say anything. And if she isn’t married (which may not even be the case, I am just assuming because most married chicks would know) she won’t get how incredibly mindnumbing everything is beforehand. You just can’t grasp it until you’ve done it.

All I’m saying, is don’t give up on her just yet. Let her take her time to mend her feelings. If you draw back, I think there will be no hope for a friendship. Which seems silly, but it happens ALL THE TIME. Misunderstanding end relationships all the time. It’s a shame and it’s dumb. If you do everything you can, and she doesn’t come around, then that sucks, but at least you cen genuinely say you tried and move on.

That aside it’s up to her to accept that it happened and move past it…I agree that it’s probably not worth sacrificing a long friendship over, but it takes some people longer to get over things…

Weddings are insane and I always felt like you were doing well if you ended up with the bride, groom, minister, license and rings!

I try to put myself in other people’s shoes – wedding days ARE crazy!
Nick even forgot the ring. I bet most people don’t know that – that we almost forgot THE symbol. There were lots of things that went wrong that day. Lots of things lost. or misplaced.
And it wasn’t that it didn’t bother me on the day of. I just couldn’t do anything about it. So I had to worry about them or let it go for the day and be happy.

lol, and ANYONE that knows me knows that there is NOTHING I can’t forget.
Worst memory ever.

Weddings are hard things. Everyone outside of the bride have their own lives and things to accomplish. I got my feelings hurt a lot during the events because I felt so alone, K aside. Even Nick was letting me handle everything alone. I shopped alone, I made decisions alone. Crafted alone.
So I can understand hurt feelings over important things.
I guess I just don’t understand why someone would let it pall a friendship if the friend was genuinely apologetic and regretful.

And I can say, from experience, wedding days are INSANE. I lost my shoes the morning of. My SHOES. How does that happen? Don’t know. Never found them. Had to run out last second and buy more. Is your friend married? Because it’s impossible to imagine that scenerio if you aren’t. Did you realize how it was going to be beforehand? I’d bet not. There’s just.so.much to worry about/remember/deal with. You have to see things the way he/she does. From the experience THEY had. And hopefully, they’ll be able to do the same with you.

I know you would NEVER hurt one of your friends intentionally. And I can see you being so understanding and forgiving in a reversed situation. But you are a rare breed. I’d be hurt, too. Logic aside. Because I’d want my gift that I toiled over to be SO special, you COULDN’T forget it. Like I said, logic aside. Because there’s no logic to feelings.

I’ll stop now. I am in a rambly mood. Or didn’t you notice?

I love you. You are awesome. Nurse your friend’s feelings are hard as she worked on your gift. It’s only fair.