Echoes.

I think this article pretty much sums up the difficulty that I see before Nick and me in our marriage: “It took me a long time to accept that Ellen’s way is legitimate…”

Legitimate.
Not that I think it’s the best way, but that it is a legitimate and capable way of doing something that I would otherwise have handled differently but that he has chosen to handle in this instance.
And vice versa.
That’s a battle for me, being so in charge of many decisions in my life as I am, and accepting that he disagrees with me on some.
How can he disagree? It works!!!
But he can and does and he’s right.
Not that I’m wrong, but right in the manner that his way of doing things is a perfectly legitimate way of handling things.

What a neat concept, summed up in a sentence.
I hope I retain the idea – my stubbornness is sure to try and erase it from my memory.