Moseying along the one subject path.
July 13, 2009
I keep thinking I need a rest.
How many of you find that at the end of the weekend you’re falling into bed purely exhausted, with no chance to rest at all?
Maybe this marriage will give me a chance to rest.
Sarcasm doesn’t apparently translate well in written form.
Or maybe someone has a case of the Mondays.
Long talk with my FMIL this past weekend – she’s really wonderful. I’m hitting the absolute jackpot on in-laws and I am not entirely sure how I got so lucky.
She called to ask a few questions and to tell me she picked up all our champagne flutes because she found them on sale and to take them off our registry.
That’s in additional to a million other little things she has done with this wedding that would have already counted as more than any gift I could have thought of.
Same with my parents.
I’m so incredibly blessed that they’ve chosen to help Nick and me with this.
And I’m excited about the champagne flutes!
Our registry.
I had a friend recently tell me that my Macys registry was ridiculous, because she couldn’t really see spending that much money on those things.
And, well. I was kind of hurt. Not that I care if she spends the money on those things – I’m 29 years old. I have stuff to start my married life with.
What I had been instructed to do, by pretty much everyone, was to register for things I would LOVE to have to start my life with if I were just going on the “I wants” instead of the “I needs”.
You see, I know how to make do.
I’m a single mom whose ex has never done a darned thing to help.
My daughter and I know what it’s like to have second hand and we’re quite proud that we’ve made it as far as we have in life, including the help from family and friends along the way.
So, the registry was supposed to be a Wish List.
And it is.
I wish I knew more people who were getting married now – or had asked more people at the time why they were registering for what they registered for.
What about you guys – married and unmarried – if you were registering for yourself and your loved one, what would be on your list?
::goes to look at macys registry::
it’s pricey stuff, but…so what? people can go halvsies. and also buy cheaper things that are on the list.
i love the stuff you selected. it’s all gorgeous.
I didn’t say your registry was ridiculous, my friend. Only that some of that stuff seemed kind of high. Won’t hash it out online, but it wasn’t meant as an insult – you tell me you like the brutal honesty and that’s what I was going for. I love you because of/in spite of/as a result of your you-ness. Expensive ass plates and all.
nah, i say go for what you love. you’re right, you’re getting married, you two need to start a life together. you’ve both gone for years with the basics, it’s fine to want to upgrade to better things.
put whatever you want on the registry. nobody says that people have to buy the more expensive things. The only rules I think one should have in terms of a registry is that they should include things of all price ranges that they would like to get…or note that they don’t HAVE to get from the registry.
Puh-lease. Registries are for the stuff you’d like to have. Who doesn’t already have towels or plastic pitches that are 30 years old and avacado green? I registered for margarita glasses. Can you drink margaritas out of a regular glass? Yes. I don’t care, it more fun to drink them out of the funny shaped ones. And that’s what I wanted. If people don’t like the prices, they can get you a gift card for an amount they think is appropriate. You did what you’re supposed to do. Your friend is either not married or totally fucked herself outta decent wedding gifts when she did get married. Sucks for her.
Ok. I’m going to step in here and say that I agree that the registry is completely ridiculous. And actually sickening.
I understand the whole idea of a “want” – but there is a point between “want” and “useless waste of money.” To start, just with the logistics of where do you think you’re going to store all that stuff? Stuff that you’ll maybe use once or twice a year? Do you think those things would really make you happy? Or maybe you’d be better off investing them in something that’s actually worth that dollar value. On top of that, may I point out that NONE of those things are made in the USA. Dare I point out the huge crisis in the US that is causing people that have busted their asses their entire lives to LOSE THEIR HOMES. And you’re upset over someone being offended by your registry.
I’m not just offended, I’m appalled.
Also, I’m not sure who this “Kristin” commenter is, but it sounds like she’s off her effing rocker and has her noise so high in the air that she’s going to down when it rains.
If this bothers you, delete it. But you asked the question, and I’m not sugar coating honesty anymore. It’s too late to undo what you’ve done, but at least you’ve got another point of view to add to the poll.
Okay, this is getting out of hand.
Honey, it is your registry. Not anyone else’s. You don’t have to defend the things you picked. If someone doesn’t like what you picked they don’t have to buy it, they can get you something else or not get you anything at all. That is their choice.
Please don’t give this another thought. With everything else that is going on this should be the least of your worries.
I guess it’s just easier to focus on the small stuff. Especially when I can’t write about the larger stuff on a public blog.
One day – when the anvil isn’t hanging over my head, I’ll have more freedom.
When we got married we registered for stuff we WANTED. Nice new towels, matching shower curtain and bath rug, pizza pan and cutters, britta water pitcher, a fertilizer spreader for the yard, sheet and comforter set, etc..
I don’t think you should two seconds of thought to what other people think about your registry. To me it’s kind of a fantasy list, things you would love to have but probably not buy for yourself..and anything we got off of the list was icing on the cake
Exactly.
I have tons of dishes. None of them match. All of them are cheap. I’m perfectly fine with those.
I have pots and pans – a housewarming gift from my parents.
I have all the things I need for a day to day life.
What I don’t have is money to spend on all these other things.
I have invited about 400 people to my wedding.
As such, I have been lectured about how many items and in what price ranges I should register.
Otherwise you’d have seen only Target and things like the board games… but I’d have added puzzles too – Nick, Abbey and I LOVE puzzles.
Truthfully, what drew me to Macys was that a percentage of what is bought off my registry goes to the ACS. A near and dear subject to me.
And. My MIL wouldn’t let me register for four billion paper plates – my favorite sort of china. ;p (hey, I recycle!)
I really hope I don’t “down” when it rains. You know, because of my “noise” being in the air.
lolololololol.
gawd i love kristin.
i was excpecting a really awesomely scathing remark from her – one that would make us all VERY uncomfortable (sort of like…the other one)and we just get silliness.
that’s why she is my friend. when i cringe to think “this is gonna get brutal”, she takes the high road.
but all i know is….
i am offended and pissed off at you for getting married in the first place. how selfish and petty of you to get married when there are starving children in africa.
sallie says:
“GO KRISTIN!!!!!! love you, girl”
AAAAANNNNNDDDDD.
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